Ode to the Hypocrite

  Summer of 1998, I exited a Target store with a guy I was seeing at the time. “Hey, come over here and talk to me,” a guy said standing with a group of friends. I looked over to see a group of five black males with sagging pants and backwards hats as they kept tormenting with their taunts. I immediately looked at my guy, a small framed white guy from the suburbs who st...
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Know You Foreign Honky by Jim O’Donnell

As I prepare for a Summer stint across the pond, I thought I'd repost this lovely piece written exclusively for TheCreaminMyCoffee.com by my favorite New Zealander, not to confused with Zoolander, Jim O'Donnell. Know your Foreign Honky For many African American women, the wider world appears to be a daunting place. Sadly for many it also feels unobtainable. Yes we are in ...
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White-Collar Vs. Blue-Collar; the Search For A VERY VERY Baby Blue.

As young women, we enter the world of dating on a mission to discover what type of man works for us, who we enjoy spending time with and ultimately what kind of man we can eventually see ourselves spending a lifetime with. Many of those dating decisions are guided by your immediate community, upbringing and comfort level. Typically a girl with a blue collar family will da...
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You’re in Your Optimus Prime, So Own It!

As I scroll dating site after dating site I find there is a common deception, done by both men and women alike. A con of all cons, that can cause somebody like me to pass you by in an instant. Your profile picture says handsome, debonaire, wise, dateable and then below we see, in large font, your “age.” In many instances I'm stuck second guessing my natural assumptions, “Maybe ...
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No Tools Required

Tool Box
After the great response from women in agreement on my last blog about The Woodworkers, ex's that show up out of the woodworks at the wrong times of your life and why, it got me to thinking about the tools you may meet while out on your dating escapades. A tool is an idiom many people use to describe someone used to carry out the designs of another; a dupe. Many times they ...
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Oh, You’ve Come Back! Yay?

Throughout my life I have dated all different races of men that come from different backgrounds, different countries and varying educational levels. I have found that there are typical personality traits that can be used to distinguish one from another, however in many instances there are some traits that cross racial, cultural and socio-economic boundaries. There is one flaw, ...
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Is it the Culture or the Color that’s Turning Many Black Women Off? – Beyond Black & White

As you search for your life partner of a different shade, have you questioned your motives or reasons behind your preferences? If you’re like me and question every move made by yourself and others, I’m sure that you have your self justified reasoning for dating outside of your race. For those of you who have no idea on why you’ve made the choice that you have, ESPECIALLY if you...
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We’d Be A Perfect Couple… If Only He’d Call

No matter who you are or what country you're from, black, white, brown or yellow, chances are you have waited for someone to call you back. Whether it's a callback on a job opportunity or the confirmation that your friend was able to score you both tickets to see your favorite band, the stress and anxiety that distracts us from our normal routine, irritates us and can allow...
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